Because of our emptiness...

Because of our emptiness, ultimately what we (unconsciously) desire is an ephemeral quality of wholeness that we see in the object we desire- whether a person or a ferrari or a nation. That is, of course, our projection. If the object we desire is a person, that person becomes our rival, seeming to either allow or deny us access to what we think will satiate us. This is the infant's experience of the mother.